Life is Challenging.
But you probably didn’t need me to tell you that, did you?
Well, I wanted to start this series off with one of the most fundamental insights that I’ve learned – and this is it!
We’ve all had the experience of some challenging circumstance unexpectedly taking place that creates panic, havoc, unease, or distress in our lives. Whether it’s the breakup of a relationship, the loss of a job, a medical diagnosis, or whatever, if you’ve lived long enough, you’ve been faced with challenging moments.
So it’s important, from time to time, to simply remind ourselves that, but it’s very nature, life is challenging.
Stuff is going to happen.
The problem is so many of us go through life expecting the hard stuff, the challenging stuff, to not happen to us. So when it does, we react negatively because we don’t like what is happening and we want it to stop or go away.
The challenges in our lives are often unwelcomed.
So, when hard or challenging things come up, we want them to go away.
We want life to be ‘other than it is.’
But wanting life to be ‘other than it is’ is only going to make the experience of ‘what is’ more challenging. By resisting or pushing against life’s challenging times, we create more anxiety, distress, and discomfort for ourselves. We have to learn to accept life ‘just as it is,’ realizing that whatever we are facing now will change in the future.
That’s right, while at times things are not always going to be easy, neither will these challenging times last. Your circumstances are temporary. Things might be hard for you right now, but things will not always be this way. Whenever you face challenges in life, just remember, this too shall pass!
If you were going for a walk through a park and someone dressed in a bear costume jumped and scared you, you’d probably be terrified. But if, on your way into the park, you passed a friend who warned you that there is someone in there dressed as a bear that will probably jump out and scare you, you’ll still likely be startled by it, but not nearly as bad as you would have been otherwise.
So consider me that friend you pass on your way into the park warning you,
Life is going to be challenging at times.
There is nothing we can do to prevent that. But we can change our relationship to those challenging times by just accepting them ‘as they are’ – as unpleasant, challenging events that will not last forever.