We all make mistakes.
Some make them more often than others.
Some make bigger ones while others seem minimal.
Regardless of the frequency or magnitude, we all make them.
One thing I’ve learned (and am still learning) is that we can’t stay stuck there.
I know, it’s not easy. Trust me, I know.
But we have to take action to move past our mistakes if we want to move forward.
I saw this recently and it really resonated with me, so I wanted to share and add my own thoughts.
These are some good steps, but I think we can do better.
At step one, I’d allow yourself whatever time you need, whether that’s ten minutes or ten hours. True, the longer you wallow in your failure, the worse you’ll feel and the longer until you recover, but some just aren’t at a place where 10 minutes is possible. Take the time you need, but set a limit on it. And next time, set a shorter limit. Keep working yourself back until you get to 10 minutes.
At step two, I want to do more than just try to ‘fix it’. See what you can learn from it. Mistakes and failure are only negative if you don’t learn from them. So spend some time, whether that’s at step one or after, to think through what happened and see what you can learn about yourself. Make some changes if you need to. Apologize. Make amends if possible.
A single deep breath at step three may not be enough. Take as many as you need. Below is a video I did recently on starting a mediation practice, it might help (Or you can watch it here).
Step 4 may be the hardest for me. I am incredible hard on myself. I forgive others much more readily than I forgive myself. Bringing some self-compassion into this process might be helpful. Take it easy on yourself. Have a little internal chat and communicate love, compassion, and forgiveness.
I don’t know about you, but these are not easy steps for me to start, or complete. But they are critical if we are to move past mistakes and failures.
The emotions that come up during times of failure can be challenging. Here is a video I did a while back on dealing with challenging emotions.
And let me know how you deal with making mistakes and the emotions that come along with them in the comments below.